“People pleasing” can show up in many ways:

• You caretake other people’s feelings at the expense of your own.

• You minimize your own feelings and needs to keep the peace.

• You struggle to say ‘no’ or set boundaries.

• You believe you need to “prove” your worth in professional and personal relationships.

• You struggle to make decisions because you lack clarity about what you want, or worry that your decision will be met with disapproval.

These patterns are often so automatic they exist outside of our awareness. What we do notice is the effect on our well-being. Over time, turning away from our own feelings and needs can lead to chronic experiences of anxiety, sadness, resentment, and uncertainty. We end up feeling unseen and unappreciated by the people we care about rather than more connected to them—the very outcome we have been trying so hard to avoid.   

But abandoning our own needs to keep the peace is not the answer.  

I can help you begin to understand how and why these patterns developed, and the situations most likely to trigger them now. You’ll become more aware of what you think and feel separate from other people’s expectations or needs, and be better able to engage with your emotions from a place of curiosity. Together, we will work to identify specific steps you can take to practice a new way of being—one that honors your own experience, gives you a greater sense of ease and calm, and supports real connection to yourself and other people.

Call 720.739.1606 to schedule a complimentary 15 minute phone consultation.