Anxiety, Perfectionism & People Pleasing
Virtual Therapy in Colorado & New York
If you stop being hard on yourself, won’t everything fall apart?
The stakes feel too high to relax.
You have high expectations for yourself and try hard not to let others down. When things go well you feel relief, but it’s fleeting, before you feel compelled to work even harder to keep proving yourself and meeting those expectations.
When you have setbacks, it can feel like you’re at risk of losing respect, relationships, even your own sense of worth. You often minimize your own feelings to avoid conflict, but end up feeling resentful.
Change your relationship to your thoughts and feelings, and find relief.
In therapy, you’ll have a compassionate space where you can connect to what’s real for you, free from judgment or disapproval.
We’ll practice mindfulness techniques to support your ability to safely engage with difficult feelings, and to “put them away” when you need to move on with your day.
We’ll find ways you can practice centering your own experience in social situations and relationships rather than evaluating yourself through others’ eyes.
We’ll help you develop a sense of self worth separate from achieving or meeting external expectations.
Here’s what we’ll do together.
What we’ll work on
Explore your experience with self-compassion.
Understand what’s at the root of your anxiety, and how you can meet those needs in healthier ways
Learn techniques to relax and manage anxiety and other challenging feelings.
Have less anxiety about what is out of your control.
Develop resilience in the face of mistakes and setbacks.
Feel empowered to advocate for yourself in relationships and at work and set healthy boundaries.
Feel more connected to yourself, your partner, and friends and family.